Masturbation

 

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In many of the Caribbean islands, masturbation is considered taboo. The subject matter can be very embarrassing to talk about and certainly not in public. To masturbate simply means stimulating oneself sexually either with the hand or with a sex toy. The stimulation does not necessarily have to be of sex organs, but any part of the body that creates feelings of sexual desire. The goal in many cases is to reach an orgasm.  Some women are thus able to orgasm by just rubbing their thighs together or gently massaging the breasts.

 

 

 

Masturbation Myths

 

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In the sex work industry, much of the work entails penetration by another and there are times when as a sex worker you may not want penetrative sex with both clients and partners. You may feel your body needs to be rested. In fact, according to John*, a male sex worker in Jamaica, penetrative sex can significantly ‘wear down’ the body if extra care is not taken to rest and avoid penetrative sex for a while. Donna*, a female sex worker agreed that avoiding penetrative sex for a period is always needed. During those times, they recommend  spending time to reconnect and explore self sexually.

 

Here are some of the tips given by them for those days when you would rather not have penetrative sex with your clients or your partners. You could also consider doing some of these with your partner either watching or you doing it to them (mutual masturbation).

 

Donna, a female sex worker, says the key to a satisfying masturbation session is planning.

“You have to turn off your phone to prevent distraction. You could tell your friends or family that you are going to sleep and give them a timeframe,” she explained.

 

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John noted that not many men will admit that they masturbate, but it is very common. He says like women, the men need to plan to get the best out of it. Whilst he did not go into details about the setting with candles and music, he noted that watching films with men making love is one way to get into the mood. Another idea given was massaging the penis while thinking about a very good experience and fantasizing about someone you want to have sex with.

 

To learn more about men and masturbation, read 7 Masturbation Techniques on ASKMen.com:

 

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