Sexy Safety Tips

 

altWhen we think of or set the mood for sex, pleasure is usually what is foremost on our minds. As a result, anything that the mind feels will interfere with this pleasure is likely to be avoided or used reluctantly. Many surveys done show that the main reason that condoms are not used is the perceived idea that it cuts back on pleasure. Others point to inability to keep an erection or not being able to orgasm.  No matter however, it is important for us as sex workers to practise safer sex with our partners as much as we do with our clients.

 

Safer sex includes activities where sex juices and other bodily fluids do not come into contact. This reduces the risk of contracting or spreading a sexually transmitted infection (STI), such as HIV.  It is important that as sex workers we enjoy sex with our partners, but we must bear in mind that bodily fluids should not get into the anus, vagina or mouth. Bodily fluids include:

  • Blood

  • sperm (cum)

  • vaginal fluids

Here are a few fun tips for safer but pleasurable sex.

 

 

altCondoms

The key to condom use is choosing the right one, making your partner feel comfortable and relaxed and keeping the sexual tension high throughout the act. Male condoms come in varying sizes and colours. They come ribbed, swirled and twisted. They glow in the dark and they are flavoured. 

 

Like everything else, size matters. Condoms which are too small will be difficult to put on and can result in a deflating experience not only for your partner’s penis, but his ego and will kill both yours and his sexual excitement. Small condoms, if you do get it on can also reduce pleasure. Make sure the condom can roll down to the base of the penis.

 

Once you have decided on the size, shop around for the different types of condoms that are available in your country. Some brands carry various condoms designed for pleasure and include those that wider at the top thus giving more room around the head of the penis. Others are shaped like bulbs, also giving space at thehead; some creates warming and tingling sensations; some are extremely thin; some are ribbed, swirled or twisted and some are flavoured. There are many condoms to choose from.

 

Having chosen the type of condom/s, all that remains is to create the mood. Foreplay becomes very important in the context of condom use. It is important that you make your partner feel he is the best lover in the world, talk to him, tell him what you want to do to him, tell him how beautiful and sexy his penis is, massage it. The head of the penis is very sensitive and rapid strokes will cause an erection. You can also use your other hand to squeeze the underside of his penis for added pleasure.

 

When he is fully erect, quickly put on the condom with your mouth. Gently roll the condom to the base of his penis. The warmth of your mouth creates a similar sensation as the warmth of the vagina or anus and will heighten his excitement for the final journey through penetration.

 

altLubricants

Another way of increasing the pleasure of condom use is with lubricants. There are many different lubricants on the market. Some are just plain and others promise to make sex feel like skin to skin; to enhance sex by creating silky sensations and prolonged mutual stimulation; to turn up the sexual excitement with ‘soft, warming sensations’ and others promise to end irritation caused by condoms.

 

Lubricants come in water-based, silicone-based and oil-based formats. You should not use oil-based lubricants with condoms as it will cause it to disintegrate. To enhance pleasure, try dropping a pea drop of lubricant into the condom before rolling on to the penis. The lubricant will create a ‘squishy’ sensation around the ultra sensitive head of the penis during penetration.

 

Sexy female condoms

The female condom can be a bit off putting based on its size. However, there is no need to fear as there are many men and women who can testify to its pleasure component. One middle aged woman was taught how to use the female condom and went home and practised with her partner. Ever since the first trial, she frequently wears the condom regardless of whether she plans to have sex or not. She explained that it was the first time she had so many orgasms in one night. She found that she could even come by just wearing it. She now wears the condom purely for pleasuring herself.  

 

altSo what happened to her?

 

She found that when the condom is inserted, the outer ring rubs against her clitoris during the sexual act creating a sensation she said she never had before. She also realised that when inserted, she could also manipulate it to rest on her clitoris and when she walks it would rub against it allowing her to be in a constant place of pleasure. Her partner also found it stimulating when the head of his penis comes in contact with the inner ring.

 

Female condoms are not as popular as the male condoms and are also more expensive. Check a nongovernment organisation that works in HIV, they may have free female condoms. Additionally, if you have access to only one type of male condoms, don’t despair.