If you are transgender and a sex worker, you may find these tips quite handy.


General tips

  • Negotiate price and service up front. Get the money up front. Always.
  • Try to use a condom, especially for anal sex. Use a lot of lube, too.
  • Do not work when you are high or drunk. You will be much less alert, and you'll be more likely to do something risky that you wouldn't do sober.
  • Wear shoes in which you can run, or that you can slip off easily.
  • Don't wear anything around your neck. Necklaces, scarves, key chains, etc. can be used to strangle or drag you.
  • Get yourself checked at a health clinic as often as possible. TG prostitutes and the men who seek them out have extremely high rates of HIV infection (as many as two-thirds of TG sex workers in some cities, according to one recent survey).
  • Carry a cell phone. You can call yourself and leave a message with a description, etc. That way they know you are not as isolated and vulnerable.
  • Work with friends if possible. If no one you know is around, pretend they are! Call to the nearest passerby something in the vein of "See you at such and such, at such and such time." Anything to let client know that you will be missed and have been witnessed leaving with them.
  • Share information with other sex workers. If you have had a bad experience with a client, pass the details on to others. Describe the car, his rap, anything that will help others avoid going off with him. Ask others about their bad experiences, too.


Try to solicit in the safest place possible

  • Fairly safe: take out an ad in the local alternative paper or on the net.
  • Fairly safe: sign up with a service.
  • Less safe: do it in TG bars with friends.
  • Least safe: be extremely careful on the street. Try to work with others.


Carefully observe the client

  • Listen to his voice
  • Observe his body language.
  • Listen to your female intuition-- if it doesn't feel right, there's a good chance it isn't.
  • Trust your instincts and be willing to turn customers down.


Try to verify any information.

  • Get a phone number and make sure it's a legit one.
  • If you get contacted through email, keep copies of any emails, especially the information at the bottom showing where it was sent from.
  • Get the license on his car.
  • Make sure a friend gets a good look at the client you're with, and make sure the client knows that someone else has a really good description of him.


Getting into a car

  • Make sure the client is alone. More than one person increases your risks.
  • Do a full circle around the car. Get the license.
  • Check behind the back seat to make sure that no one is hiding.
  • Always check door handles before you get in to make sure they work.
  • Make sure you know how to unlock the door before entering car.
  • Avoid vans, pickups, and SUVs, especially with tinted windows.


Going somewhere

  • Pick your own parking spots and hotels. Unfamiliar places are much less safe.
  • Check address. If client says he's taking you to one place, but pulls up at another, this may not be all he's lying about.
  • Unless it's a regular, avoid bridges and tunnels.
  • Generally speaking, the nicer the hotel, the safer the situation.
  • Don't enter a room if there are other men there. If others show up, you leave immediately.
  • When in a car or in a room, keep an eye on the exit at all times and do not let the customer block your access to it.
  • I advise against bringing someone to your house. It's much easier for a man to beat or kill you there and leave than it is to assault you at his place and then have to deal with getting rid of you.


Sex safety

  • Take charge of the situation. Try to control the whole encounter.
  • You are less vulnerable if you are on top.
  • Try to negotiate out of vaginal or anal sex, or get your customer off some other way. Many postoperative women are more likely to tear during vaginal sex.
  • Charging a lot more for anal sex may discourage cheap johns.
  • If you want to douche, brush your teeth, or use an enema, wait until you are done with work for the day or night to do so. These can make it easier to catch something.
  • It is wiser to give than to get. This goes for bondage, spankings, water sports, oral sex, and rimming.
  • It is never a good idea to allow a stranger to tie you up.
  • Decide for yourself what you will and will not do. Have a price list and time limits, and stick to them.



Transgender Road Map accessed February 16, 2012 at http://www.tsroadmap.com/index.html